A sudden job loss can be very unsettling and it might make you look inside yourself, to take stock of who you are and the position you now find yourself in.
Yes, you will worry about how you will pay the bills, whether or not you’ll get another job and when the new job will come, but you will also have the opportunity to spend more time with your family, friends, and yourself.
You will have time to do all the things you wished you had time for when you were working. You can go to the gym, get outside more and use the time to re-evaluate your life and your career. (Yes, this is a good thing.)
Recognize That Losing Your Job May Not Be Your Fault
Yes, there is some relief knowing that the inevitable has finally happened vs. the waiting to see if you will go next but there is still a little part deep inside you that wonders if it was your fault. Maybe if you worked harder, then this would not have happened. Maybe if you worked weekends, evenings, etc, it would have been someone else that was laid off. Maybe if you participated in office politics more (or less) you would still have a job.
All these thoughts drain your energy and take away the contributions you made when you were there.
Your company may not have been doing well. They had to cut costs, and you were one of the people they let go. This is all there is to it. Full-stop.
Stop making it mean something more. You can get help from a friend, spouse, coach, colleague, etc. Many people will listen and support you through this transitional period in your life. Looking for a job can be frustrating, time consuming, and disappointing.
Remember that you do not have to do it alone.
You need to decide what’s important to you. You’ve probably had to put what you want on hold for years as you have been spending all your time figuring out how to mould yourself to be someone your should be. You worried about what your boss thought of you, what his or her boss thought of you and what your co-workers thought of you. You spent many evenings trying to calm down or figure out what to do with a co-worker or boss that was driving you crazy.
All of this is gone (if only temporarily) and now you get to decide what is important to you.
What makes you happy? What gets you excited? These are questions that you can answer because you have been given the opportunity to do so.
Things in life happen for a reason. There was some purpose for you to stop and reassess how you have been living your life at this point. Why do you think this happened now? Were you working too hard? Were you neglecting yourself? Was your family screaming for you to spend more time with them? Now is the time to see if your former lifestyle will fit your future one. Use the time wisely because an opportunity like this may never come again.
The final reward is finding a new job but there are milestones that can be rewarded along the way. Sent your resume to five employers? Reward. Went on one job interview this week? Reward. When you look back, you will know that you are not the same person you were before this happened. And, you will smile to yourself because you know that this is a good thing.
You’ve got bills to pay, of course – maybe this is your chance to find that money in a way you prefer.
Good luck with your new life; it can be good.